Ask Amy: Rekindled romance has everything except passion
Dear Amy: I am a 65-year-old woman. I rekindled a relationship with a man I have known for over 50 years. He and I dated briefly (for six months) six years ago, and I was totally into him.
We stopped seeing each other because he was financially irresponsible. I could not see myself paying for everything with no help from him.
Fast-forward to 2022. He reached out to me. He’s still single, I am single, so we decided to try this again, this time with my eyes open and asking questions.
I moved to my family home, made renovations, and my financial situation is good because I don't have a mortgage.
He lives in an apartment, but is planning to move closer to me.
We are heading into seven months of this reconnect, and I am very happy and content with him, but I am not sexually attracted to him.
We hold hands and kiss, but there is no sexual passion.
We sleep in the same bed. I feel like he is a very good friend and I want him to be with me forever, but I feel guilty because of the lack of sexual intimacy.
I enjoy sex and want to have it in my life.
I feel I am being very selfish holding onto him, knowing that there is no passion.
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