Ask Amy: A woman wants partner’s permission to roam
I want to visit the other guy, and he also wants me to.
I love the man I live with, as we have been together for such a long time, but I no longer feel “in love” with him.
I’m relatively young, healthy, and pretty.
I have a lot of need for physical intimacy and would like to have it again.
How can I tell the man I live with that I need to make this trip East before I die?
– Time’s Ticking Away
Dear Time’s Ticking: You and your partner have settled into a mutually beneficial roommate relationship.
You should initiate a conversation with him, expressing your desire to travel on your own and perhaps pursue other relationships, while remaining in a friendly cohabiting relationship with him.
Yes, time is ticking away. You do not need permission to assert your own freedom to make choices, as long as you come to terms with the possible consequences.
Understand the stakes for you: Your partner owns the home. He might insist that you find other housing.
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