Ask Amy: A woman questions sexual consent
I agree with your husband that your habit of asking two potentially opposing questions (“Do you mind if I turn this off, or are you listening to it?”) forces him to issue more than a one-word response.
I agree with you that your way of asking is polite.
And I hope that you will both agree with me that spouses should always do their best to be generous in all of their communications.
Dear Amy: “Looking for Love” is a 72-year-old man who wrote about not having intimacy in his marriage for 20 years.
He’d do well to look at whether he helps his wife with household chores.
If he treats her like staff at an assisted living facility, he shouldn’t complain that she doesn't want to be intimate with him. That would violate her employment contract.
This suggestion is based on me being the staff at the assisted living facility that has housed my 74-year-old husband for more than three decades.
– Been There
Dear Been There: Ouch.
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