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– Ashamed
Dear Ashamed: Send your cards after the crush is over. I maintain that any card or holiday letter coming in until the end of February is “on time.”
In fact, receiving these missives after Christmas can be something of a treat for the recipients.
But if you are looking to offload your unused cards, inquire about donating them to your local senior center or assisted living home.
Dear Amy: Wow, you were so totally off base, harshly critical, and chastised a mother who wrote to you with very legitimate concerns about her daughter's extreme weight gain (“Desperate Mother”).
She stated that her daughter has gained well over 100 pounds beyond her normal body weight and that a doctor had recommended bariatric surgery – a procedure that is recommended only in extreme cases of unhealthy weight.
People who are morbidly overweight are suffering from a health crisis that's statistically and unarguably going to affect both their longevity and quality of life.
Concern over this critical health issue is not being judgmental or body shaming, but simply a mother's love for her daughter's well-being.
You owe her and all your readers an apology on this.
– Upset
Dear Upset: My point was that this mother’s shaming, blaming, and obsessive worry would not help her daughter. The daughter is an adult. She has sought medical advice regarding her obesity. The rest is up to her.
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