Ask Amy: Relative doesn’t want to attend gay wedding
It’s their day; don’t make it about you.
If you decide not to sit in judgment of this couple, then your relationship with these family members shouldn’t be adversely affected. I hope you’re capable of that.
Dear Amy: My fiancée and I have been engaged for four years.
Admittedly, this is longer than I originally would have liked, but outside factors such as our long-distance relationship, COVID, and moving across the country together have continually delayed the wedding date.
While my fiancée and I have been able to accept these delays, it has clearly irritated my mother.
As a result, she has continually poked and prodded about our wedding plans. At best, her interference is exhausting. At worst, it is hurtful.
The most recent incident has made me question how to balance my relationship between my mother and my future wife.
Over Thanksgiving, Mom compiled a list of all the family members' birthdays and distributed it at dinner.
My fiancée was the only person at the dinner without her name on the list.
When I asked my mother about it, she told me, "Well, you're not married, so technically she's not part of the family."
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