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Ask Amy: Relative doesn’t want to attend gay wedding

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I have an extended family member whose son is gay. He has been in a relationship with his live-in partner for many years.

I have visited them on several occasions, and have always had a pleasant time.

There has been some talk recently about the two of them getting married. Although I wish them both the best, should I receive an invitation, my beliefs preclude me from attending.

One or both of my younger siblings may attend, thereby representing the family, but I worry that by not attending I will damage the relationship with my relative.

If I were to attend, I would feel like a hypocrite, and the thought of going against my core values is at odds with my fondness for both this relative and his son.

Have you any thoughts, suggestions or advice?


– Man In a Quandary

Dear Man: It seems hypocritical (to me) that your core values sanction – or at least tolerate – a homosexual relationship with two men cohabiting, while you cannot tolerate these two sanctifying their loving relationship through the more legally permanent and meaningful state of marriage.

But your values are your own, and you have the right to interpret these values – or their source material – any way you want.

If you don’t want to attend this wedding, then don’t. I don’t suggest that you raise your objections to this union before or after the wedding – just RSVP that unfortunately you won’t be able to make it, and wish the couple all the best.


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