Ask Amy: Baby on board inspired family to descend
The memorial service is a big camping trip. If this event were any other time, I would go and participate fully, but my two-day professional conference is extremely important to me.
The logistics are such that I can't do both.
My husband has told me that I can go to the conference, and he'll bring our kids with his parents.
In general, I think a memorial service would outweigh any professional event. However, since neither my husband or I are particularly close to the grieving person, can I choose a work event that is really important, and not feel guilty?
– Torn
Dear Torn: Your husband and children will be flying the family flag at this memorial event.
He will pass along your condolences.
You could follow up with a note to the grieving husband, expressing your regrets.
Dear Amy: I liked your comprehensive response to “Nice Guys Finish Last” the delusional landlord who wanted his tenants to thank him for basically doing what landlords are supposed to do.
I’ve been a landlord for many years. Peaceful and clean tenants paying the rent on time is all the appreciation that this landlord needs.
– Grateful
Dear Grateful: Exactly.
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