Ask Amy: Mom wants smooth waters for ex-con son
As far as I'm concerned, he's done his time, he is family, and he shouldn't be disowned.
Grandma recently told him (when I was in the other room) that he can't stop at the house anymore.
I like to see him occasionally and am not afraid of him stealing. He is not dangerous.
Your advice?
– Forgiving Mom
Dear Mom: Your son may have paid his debt to society, but his reconciliation should happen at home.
You could start by encouraging him to make amends.
Has he sincerely acknowledged and apologized for his actions? Asked for forgiveness? Recognized how he violated his grandparents’ trust? Attempted to repay them?
If not, he should.
He might do this in a letter, carefully written and sent to your folks.
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