Ask Amy: Mom ‘unmasks’ some schoolchildren
– Desperate to Change
Dear Desperate: Your anxiety is not at all “silly.” Your desire to work on this is commendable.
Engaging with friends and family via social media (such as Facebook) might help you to communicate (textually) with people you care about.
Also send postcards, greeting cards, and notes.
When it comes to placing calls, write down a couple of thoughts or questions to get you started, and ritualize the experience. Make yourself a hot beverage, sit in a favorite spot, have in mind what you will say if you leave a message.
Reward yourself when you’re done.
You can practice by calling a business and asking one question, such as, “What are your hours today?”
Smaller successes will lead to larger ones.
Dear Amy: I don’t always agree with you, but I have to admit that I really liked your response to “Helpful Husband,” whose florist wife clashed with the wife of Helpful’s colleague.
I snorted when you suggested that this florist translate the relationship into future business and “say it with flowers.”
– Won Over
Dear Won Over: Monetizing a prickly relationship would be extremely satisfying.
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