Ask Amy: Sober spouse doesn’t know when to quit
Dear Wondering: I think it’s you.
You don’t seem to have any personal insight into this situation, given that you don’t know the man or his wife.
Your friend’s presence in the household might be a very good thing for all of the people involved.
I don’t think this is a situation where you as a friend should necessarily sit in judgment.
Dear Amy: The question from “Not Nameless Wife” intrigued me.
This was about the man who always called his wife “Honey” instead of by her name.
I did the same thing as well, until my wife passed away after 47 years of a happy marriage.
I am somewhat of an introvert.
Upon reflection, I find that I have always addressed people by their names as a perfectly socially acceptable way of establishing a degree of slight separation between them and myself. But when my wife and I fell in love with each other, we were then so close to each other that she became “Honey” to me.
I guess it was my way of expressing love, inclusion, comfort, and trust.
— Also a Mr. Honey
Dear Mr. Honey: I appreciate your insight regarding how your introversion affects your verbal endearments. Your wife was one lucky “Honey.”
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