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Ask Amy: Mom wonders if boyfriend is too feminine

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My daughter, "Lauren," is in her early 30s and has had a handful of long-term, serious relationships over the years with young men. These relationships didn't work out for various reasons

Recently, she met a guy online. She fell for him instantly (and he, for her).

She says she's never met someone so thoughtful, and that he is unlike anyone she's ever met before.

He brings her flowers each week, cooks for her, makes lunch for her to take to work (with little notes inside), buys her little gifts, etc.

Jokingly, I said, "He's so thoughtful and nurturing, he sounds like a woman -- just like me!"

After meeting and spending an evening out with them, I can't help but feel he may not be totally heterosexual.


He seems like a nice enough person, but he exhibits more female or womanly characteristics and mannerisms, acting more like a girlfriend than a boyfriend.

He has recently changed his first name and has also removed all traces of social media online, so there are no pictures or other clues into his past relationships or life before meeting my daughter.

I hate to have her hurt or deceived again, and would never volunteer my suspicions to her unless she asked, but my intuition is rarely wrong.

What do you think?


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