Ask Amy: Best friend tires of new mom's complaining
Dear Amy: I have a best lifelong friend who is generous, caring, selfless, and has been there for me countless times throughout the years. I truly don't know what I would do without her.
She went through years of heartache, trying to conceive.
She had countless miscarriages and false alarms. I was there for her.
Fast-forward 10 years -- yes, 10 -- and just when she was about to give up, she scrapes up enough money to try ONE round of IVF, and, lo and behold, she gets pregnant with twin boys!
The beautiful boys are now a year old. Unfortunately, they have had issues both with sleeping and with acid reflux. It has not been easy for her.
I completely understand how hard it must be, lacking sleep and to be dealing with fussy babies for a year. But this entire year, all my friend has done is complain. Complain, complain, complain.
I hesitate calling or texting her because the constant complaining negatively affects my day.
I don't get why she has become this way, especially after all she went through to have kids. Even if I was terribly exhausted, I would never constantly complain about it. I mean, who wants to hear that?
I have recently tried to distance myself, but I feel bad.
Am I a bad friend for thinking/feeling this way? Should I just suck it up and hope this phase of hers passes?
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