Mom wants 'frumpy' daughter to snag a man
Dear Amy: My 24-year-old gorgeous, loving, and generous daughter dresses (quite honestly) like a messy frump!
This wouldn't be that big of an issue, but she does not have a boyfriend and is extremely lonely.
So far, she has had nothing beyond first or second dates.
Fortunately, we run a trade school and have about 50 eligible men coming through our school each year, but she refuses to keep her hair brushed or wear stylish clothes (even though I've taken her shopping for numerous professional outfits).
It's not that she's depressed or doesn't know any better. Amy, she thinks she looks "just fine" and I'm a "very judgmental mom."
Her dad and I want someone to love her just the way she is, but first impressions matter -- and she makes a poor one.
I have tried to be tactful, matter-of-fact, and even rude.
I have given her clothes, brushes, and hair straighteners. We are almost positive that the reason she has not met the potential "one" yet is because she comes across as a frump.
I assume that you will tell me to stay out of it, but it's hard to do that when I know that if she just tried to jazz up her initial impression a wee bit it would make all the difference in the world.
-- Mom of fantastic frump