Life Advice



Lake house dust-up roils friendship

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: Recently, I went to join my two closest friends and their husbands at "Betsy's" lake house. I arrived early. My friends had gone into town.

Betsy's husband was sitting outside, and I walked down and said hello, but he didn't knowledge me. So I asked him, "Do you want to be alone? Should I come back later?" He said yes, and I left in tears and drove the two hours back home. He was so rude and unkind, and I felt so unwelcome.

I texted Betsy that I was heading home and told her what had occurred.

She said she dislikes the way he treats me, but didn't want to end her marriage. They've been married for 10 years and she and I have been friends for 20.

We have gone on family vacations and have had many holidays together. I consider her my family.

I have always excused his behavior as him being socially awkward. I've never reacted or taken it personally until now.


I'm at a loss. He texted a half-hearted apology days later, but I'm fairly certain it was under pressure from his wife.

Even if my friend was willing to have us in the same space again, I don't know how I would not take his occasional rudeness and shortness with me personally. It IS personal.

I don't want to lose Betsy, or to miss out on our family trips and holidays.

What now?


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