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Widow bounces into new relationship

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I am a 51-year-old woman. My husband died two years ago.

I started talking to a man through one of the online games I play. It started out as mild flirtation. I asked him if he was married. He told me his marriage was basically over. He hadn't felt anything for his wife in quite a while.

I thought that was a safe answer, and we decided to meet in person. I felt like we had known each other forever.

We've "been together" for seven months, and he is still with his wife. We don't get to see each other very often, but he calls me every day. We love each other. He tells me he needs time to think about how to get out of his marriage without losing everything he's worked so hard for.

He also has a job where he is required to live in his city, so moving in with me is not an option right now. I have a 13-year-old daughter living at home.

My adult sons are happy that I found someone, but are not happy that he is married, obviously.

 

He has brought me so much happiness when I was going through so much darkness. I don't think I'm rebounding.

Everyone tells me that he won't leave his wife, but he doesn't even sleep with her. There is no love in their marriage.

How long is too long to wait for someone to make up his mind?

-- Wondering Widow

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