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Man finds that living with his folks isn't a turn-on

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I'm an attractive 29-year-old gay man. I couldn't afford my own place, due to overwhelming student loan debt and other financial issues. I moved back in with my parents, and have been living with them for over a year.

My dating life has taken the hardest hit. I have a good job and I take care of myself. However, I'm always embarrassed to bring up the fact that I live with my parents. I feel as if they will judge me. Oftentimes, I lie and say I live in my own place in the city (which is no way to start off any relationship).

I don't want this to stop me from dating. However, it doesn't help that I compare myself to other gay men who have nice apartments and are more financially stable.

Obviously, moving out is a goal, but I'd like to start dating -- sooner rather than later.

How do I get over this? And how should I address it with potential suitors? I feel like this has been holding me back so much.

-- Wondering

 

Dear Wondering: The student debt crisis has forced many adults into uncomfortable situations; I suggest that you own this, with humor.

You say, "That's right -- I'm an attractive, well-employed 29-year-old man living the dream of cohabiting with my folks! Every day I wake up in my old bedroom, stare at my old Lance Bass poster and head out to work. The upside is -- I'm paying down college debt and due to move out soon. Plus, sometimes my mom lets me have Lucky Charms for breakfast."

Dear Amy: What's your advice on how to survive extreme loneliness?

I am alone in the world. I have no parents, siblings or extended family.

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