Woman's crush on coach has shades of grey
Dear Amy: I'm a 52-year-old, happily married woman.
My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We enjoy a very close, passionate and loving relationship. I've been in menopause for the last year. This can be a challenge, because my libido is waning. My husband's libido has not waned.
Here's the thing: I've developed a crazy, physical crush on my daughter's coach. Amy, he's a good 22 years younger than me and I would absolutely NEVER cheat on my husband with him, BUT his effect on my libido is extraordinary.
My withering ovaries are doing somersaults and my libido seems to have been kicked into overdrive. Needless to say, my husband is thrilled by my sexual revival, but I can't help but feel guilty. Like I said, I adore my husband. He's a spectacular lover and a great person.
My dilemma is that while I feel anguish about my guilty secret, my husband is definitely benefiting.
As long as I don't act on my fantasies, am I OK having them?
I know if the roles were reversed and it was my husband crushing on some nubile beauty, I would feel crazy jealous.
I'd appreciate your insights.
-- What's a Girl to Do?
Dear What's a Girl: You are not cheating. You are not guilty of anything nefarious. You are a perfectly normal woman who is lucky enough to be experiencing a libido-surge during a period that can be very tough.