Ask Amy: Couple ponders reconnection infatuation
Dear Amy: I have a “second time around” query.
In our late teens some 45 years ago, “Bret” and I shared quite an infatuation. But it cooled when different college choices put 1,500 miles between us.
We lost touch (no texting or Facebook back then).
We each married but are now single again, due to my divorce 15 years ago and Bret losing his wife to COVID in 2020.
Neither of us had children.
Now we’re both 63, and we recently connected online. We’re feeling a little revived spark of our long-ago romance. Bret thinks we can recapture what we once had.
I’m not as sure about that, more just intrigued at the possibility. I think how in many ways we’re very different people today. We’re still 900 miles apart but talking about making visits.
If we were to explore a reunion, how do we keep a fond nostalgia of yesteryear from clouding or competing with our vision today?
Also, do you think Bret’s greater eagerness could be a rebound from losing his wife fairly recently?
He has said he was very close to her, they’d been married for 34 years, and her death hit him hard.
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