Ask Amy: Prospective dad should consider being a 'big'
Should I be upset?
-- Upset?
Dear Upset?: If you are upset and questioning or wanting permission to feel your own honest emotions, then you have some work to do,
You have the right to your feelings. And yes, if I were you, I would be bewildered and upset.
I'm going to assume that your daughter might be older -- and that you are not encountering this coach regularly, and so there is no personal overlap between the three of you. This might account for how this news took so long to get to you.
A three-year serious relationship is a major life-event not to disclose, but I don't think it is necessarily a total trust-breaker.
You should ask your husband what other minor details he neglected to share with you, pre-marriage. Does he have children you don't know about? Was he in the military, the seminary, a boy band?
Stay calm. It's time to talk.
Dear Amy: If the man who signed his letter "Love Story" truly wants to leave his wife for his lost love, but wants to leave "gracefully," why doesn't he let his wife and children stay in their home?
He should accept his responsibility for his children's well-being and leave the house to his wife and kids, if he must move on to chase happiness.
-- Disheartened
Dear Disheartened: I agree. This man's "Love Story" spelled heartbreak for others.
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