Ask Amy: Prospective dad should consider being a 'big'
I applaud the fact that parenthood is calling to you, and hope you will answer the call.
Start right now -- by researching your options. Your local office of Family and Children's Services would be a good first stop. Make an appointment to talk to a social worker. Ask any and all questions and take careful notes.
You might be a good candidate for fostering a child. Becoming a foster parent would give you the opportunity to see if full-time parenting is something you can tackle. You will be interviewed and educated about what is required, and you would be supported through your efforts.
Many prospective parents enter the parenting journey through the foster-to-adopt program. This effort requires both fearlessness and faith.
I hope you will also consider becoming a "Big Brother." The Big Brothers Big Sisters of America program (bbbs.org) is a wonderful way for adults to connect with kids who are looking for a positive adult role model in their lives. Do you have what it takes to be a "big?" Check their website.
Dear Amy: After 13 years of marriage, I recently learned through a good friend that my husband, "Charlie," dated my daughter's longtime travel soccer coach for three years, prior to he and I getting married.
I was told the relationship was so serious that they had discussed marriage!
I couldn't understand why my husband would keep that information from me all this time.
Charlie confirmed that this was true, but said he didn't feel it was necessary to tell me.
I feel I have been lied to and have lost all trust in him.
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