Sister reels from lifetime of bullying and exclusion
You two are in your mid-30s. Continue to talk about your relationship, including where it is headed. Bring it up -- because this is your life!
Set your own timeline, and then pop the question.
Dear Amy: I was appalled by your answer to "What's a Girl to Do," regarding watching or reading the "50 Shades of Grey" series.
"50 Shades of Grey" boils down to a man receiving pleasure from a sexually submissive woman. This includes beating her.
As a gay man, I understand the attraction to actor Jamie Dornan, but his role as a brutalizing abuser is a complete turn-off.
In this era of #MeToo, the last thing men should think is that "50 Shades" is good or normal for women. It's not. As a woman, you should not be talking about this franchise so loosely. Time's Up.
-- Abuse isn't Sexy
Dear Sexy: Please, don't tell me what I should talk about "as a woman."
You may not understand the nature of this BDSM relationship between two consenting fictional characters.
I'm not into this, myself, but a lot of women seem quite turned on by it. If I discover a link between this and domestic violence, I will definitely publish it. I assume that others agree with you.
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