Ask Amy: Friend won’t let bestie be ‘the other woman’
Dear Amy: I believe my best friend “Lara” may knowingly be the “other woman” in an affair. Lara has recently started seeing “Jonas,” an ex from her college days.
He contacted her about six months ago and it began as a friendly conversation from afar (they live in different states).
They've seen each other in person twice now – once at a hotel when she was traveling for work, and very recently when he visited her at her home.
Before they met up in person, I expressed my concerns because the last she knew, he was still with his long-time partner (with whom he shares two kids).
Lara said she would find out the truth before things progressed. Things have now progressed, but she refuses to share many details – just that Jonas and his partner are together in name only, and he plans to end it officially now.
I find this lack of information very concerning. Many easy-to-find clues on the internet have led me to believe he is still very much with his partner.
I fear that Lara has blinders on
I am not comfortable hearing about her relationship with Jonas.
I also wonder if I should have another talk with her – or even contact Jonas’ partner.
– A Worried Friend
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