Ask Amy: Friend won’t let bestie be ‘the other woman’
I’m frustrated and would like your take on this.
– Dutiful Daughter
Dear Daughter: It might be your mother’s house, but you are renting a room from her, and this should be your private space, because you are paying for it. (And she should respect your privacy, regardless.)
I think it might be time to get a lock on your door.
Understand that this whole episode could very likely lead her to ask you to move out.
You might be able to rent a room elsewhere for a price close to the one you are paying. Your mom would probably respect the validity of your rental agreement if she tried to evict you.
Dear Amy: “K” expressed the desire to visit a former lover from many decades ago, while the woman was currently in a nursing home.
Thank you for encouraging K to ask if this was OK. I cannot imagine a more stressful thing for family members than a complete stranger showing up and expecting to visit.
– Been There
Dear Been There: This idea was mainly serving “K’s” interests.
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