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Son's whirlwind womanizing has father worried

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 25-year-old, self-sufficient son has met and decided to marry a 21-year-old young lady from the Philippines who is in this country on a work visa.

She must return to her country in October. He has only known this person for less than three months.

As with many modern young people, he met her via a website, and he has fallen for ...Read more

Couple wants to resist Mom's church marketing

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: What can be done about my boyfriend's overly religious mother, who repeatedly invites us to attend her church? She has invited us ever since we started dating, but now the pressure is really on.

Her very small congregation (15 to 25 people) is actively looking to expand.

The pastor has tasked every church member with contacting ...Read more

Girlfriend is orbiting in retrograde

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend of three years has become obsessed with astrology.

I support her observation of the discipline, but now that we are more serious as a couple, she is trying to bring me into the fold.

When Mercury is in retrograde, she complains and laments every purchase and every decision I face.

She has tried to bully me into ...Read more

Family faces huge and unexpected challenge

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I married my husband three years ago. We're in our early 40s. His younger sister has two children, ages 8 and 2. The children were in a very bad situation, which ultimately led to them being sent to live with my in-laws two states away. The courts are involved and the children are in counseling.

My in-laws are well into their 60s. It'...Read more

Widow bounces into new relationship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 51-year-old woman. My husband died two years ago.

I started talking to a man through one of the online games I play. It started out as mild flirtation. I asked him if he was married. He told me his marriage was basically over. He hadn't felt anything for his wife in quite a while.

I thought that was a safe answer, and we ...Read more

The other woman wants to be the only woman

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 50-year-old married woman with two boys (one still a minor). I have been married to "Randall" for 27 years.

Randall is a doctor and I'm a stay-at-home mom. He is a good provider. We have a good life, but it is deficient in passion.

Six years ago, I fell in love with "Sam," a married man (who also has two boys with his long-in-...Read more

Romantic reconnection fizzles quickly

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I reconnected with my college boyfriend, after finding him on our school's website. We had gone our separate ways, many years ago.

After months of talking on the phone, we decided we wanted to be together and to marry in the near future.

We divorced our spouses. He rented us a condo, and I moved out of state to be with him. We were ...Read more

What should parents do when son sees locker room vaping?

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 10-year-old son was in the locker room after ice hockey practice this week and he saw a 13-year-old vaping in the locker room. This other boy was smoking a vaping device with strawberry-flavored nicotine.

I'm very proud of my son for telling me, and for giving me and my husband the opportunity to let him know that just like smoking...Read more

Boyfriend ponders optimal timing for break-up

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I are both in our early-20s. We are pursuing our educations. She is a great person. We've dated for over two years now.

I was recently offered a job halfway across the country in one of my dream cities.

The company is holding this offer for me until I graduate in two years.

My girlfriend has flipped-flopped between...Read more

Grandparents pour on the pressure for a visit

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: About a year ago, my maternal grandparents sold their home and moved across the country to spend their retirement in a nicer town. Now, they are pressuring my husband and me to fly out and stay with them for a week. They tell me, "Everyone else has come," or "We feel like you don't really love us."

The problem is time and money. My ...Read more

Employee frets about overdue job change

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have spent the last seven years working in the same small department in a relatively small company (80 employees).

My title has changed a couple of times since I have been here, and my responsibilities have increased over the years, but the basic structure of my job is static.

I am very unhappy in my job. Major factors include a ...Read more

Online relationship might be a catfish

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been in a committed online relationship with a man in the UK for what would now be two months, but a little over two weeks ago, he completely disappeared.

I'm 25 and he is 27. I first got in contact with him selling something on eBay, and we kind of just started talking. Before he disappeared, we would talk for hours every ...Read more

Newly discovered sister rocks her world

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Last year I was "found" by a biological half-sister. She has spent her life looking for her biological father. Her dad turned out to be my dad.

My parents were so in love, raised five kids and had a wonderful marriage. They have both died, and I'm convinced after talking to family members that no one knew about this sister.

I have ...Read more

Man finds that living with his folks isn't a turn-on

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm an attractive 29-year-old gay man. I couldn't afford my own place, due to overwhelming student loan debt and other financial issues. I moved back in with my parents, and have been living with them for over a year.

My dating life has taken the hardest hit. I have a good job and I take care of myself. However, I'm always embarrassed...Read more

Ex-boyfriend becomes current-colleague

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I've worked at a medium-sized company for 13 years.

I attended an office lunch for new employees last week, and was totally shocked to see my ex-boyfriend, "Kieran," among them! He had accepted a job and started at the company the week before.

We acknowledged each other at the lunch, but I was so shocked that I didn't say much to him...Read more

Felon son is about to be released from prison

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: After a traumatic divorce, my now 35-year-old stepson began drinking and using drugs.

While living with us, he stole money from me, and even from his toddler's piggy bank.

He stole my car. His outbursts necessitated he be removed by the police multiple times.

While arguing with his supervisor, he punched and broke the man's jaw.

We...Read more

Man frets about mom's reaction to girlfriend

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm flying home with my girlfriend over the Thanksgiving holiday to meet my family.

In recent days, as my mother and I have talked on the phone, she has brought up Thanksgiving and the prospect of meeting my girlfriend, saying, "I hope you're not making a mistake with her."

For background, I recently ...Read more

Aging woman puts herself on a desert island

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 62-year-old woman. I am still attractive and (blessedly) wrinkle-free, due to being on an aggressive slew of hormones, anti-oxidants and telomerase-enhancing drugs. (I'm using all the latest technology).

Because I am (apparently) unattractive to men, no matter what I do, I take solace in the few close but platonic relationships...Read more

High school student dreads start of school year

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm entering my second year of high school. I'm a straight-A student and I plan to graduate my junior year.

My problem is, I hate school. I don't have any close friends my age, I feel trapped and hopeless every time I even think of school. I hate the thought of textbook work, presentations, group projects, exams and everything about ...Read more

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