Ask Amy: Long-term grudge earns a penalty for 'holding'
When I look at their family, I reflect, and I feel like I was a good mom.
I carry baggage from my own crazy family, and I’ve tried very hard not to let my own background guide my life.
I am driving myself nuts about this small situation that is actually huge – to me.
Samantha has a wall in her home with various family pictures arranged on it.
I am not on this wall. There are pictures of other family members – some of whom she has said she does not even like.
I feel left out and like I'm not good enough to be there. I realize that’s my own baggage, but I can’t help it.
I know if I say anything to anyone, I will be told that I'm overreacting.
How do I approach this? Should I? Am I overreacting?
– Feeling Left Out in CA
Dear Feeling Left Out: When looking at a relative’s photo collection, I think it is a universal impulse to look for yourself. When looking at your own child’s photo collection, this impulse is magnified many-fold.
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