Ask Amy: Mother-daughter estrangement remains a mystery
Dear Amy: I have a question about my daughter.
She and I were estranged from the time she was 16 until she was 28.
I don't know why this estrangement happened. I haven't asked — and I won't.
We're back together now, and now we have the relationship I've always wanted.
She visited me for a week over the holidays and we had a wonderful time.
She and I are going to Ireland on holiday in October.
I'm concerned that I might do the same thing that alienated her years ago, but not knowing what it was, I can't monitor my behavior against it.
Should I ask her to tell me if I annoy her? (Annoyances are bound to happen.)
Should I keep quiet and hope for the best?
– Adoring Mom