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Ask Amy: Mother-daughter estrangement remains a mystery

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

– Heartbroken

Dear Heartbroken: Block his number, and then raise your standards.

If receiving a series of “hey” texts can completely disrupt your own healing and recovery, then you should make sure you don’t receive them.

Dear Amy: Your response to “Holding a Secret” was terrible.

No! Please! Do not reveal when someone is not the biological son of the father who raised them, and they think is their real Dad.

I have seen this revealed, and it totally devastates the person.


Many secrets like this will go to the grave with me. People confide in me for their healing, knowing this and that I care for them. It develops a trusting bond and we deeply enjoy our friendships. – Disappointed

Disappointed: The situation “Holding a Secret” described was the opposite of yours. In this case, he let a secret destroy a friendship, not cement one.


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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