Ask Amy: Friendship falters over shunning
Dear Amy: My friend, “Cynthia,” and I have been close for 24 years. For most of that time, we have met for lunch once a week (when possible). We are both women over 60.
I have a 22-year-old granddaughter, who is gay.
Cynthia has decided that I am "too accepting" of gayness in general and has told me that she can no longer be my friend.
She has gay family members that she shuns; she told me she wanted me to shun my granddaughter. I will not do that.
Cynthia has four grandchildren under the age of 10. Any of them could be gay.
I asked her if we could agree to disagree, and she refused.
My granddaughter has not asked me to shun anyone who is anti-gay.
My friend has many fine qualities, and I enjoyed her company.
I realize I am much better off without her hatred in my life.
Was it wrong of me to be willing to “agree to disagree” in order to remain friends with Cynthia?