Life Advice



Ask Amy: Friendship falters over shunning

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: My friend, “Cynthia,” and I have been close for 24 years. For most of that time, we have met for lunch once a week (when possible). We are both women over 60.

I have a 22-year-old granddaughter, who is gay.

Cynthia has decided that I am "too accepting" of gayness in general and has told me that she can no longer be my friend.

She has gay family members that she shuns; she told me she wanted me to shun my granddaughter. I will not do that.

Cynthia has four grandchildren under the age of 10. Any of them could be gay.

I asked her if we could agree to disagree, and she refused.


My granddaughter has not asked me to shun anyone who is anti-gay.

My friend has many fine qualities, and I enjoyed her company.

I realize I am much better off without her hatred in my life.

Was it wrong of me to be willing to “agree to disagree” in order to remain friends with Cynthia?


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