Ask Amy: Friendship falters over shunning
Outside of that context, you should keep your views to yourself.
Dear Amy: “Upset DIL” wrote about the extremely unbalanced way her mother-in-law was handling her estate, essentially giving everything to one brother over another brother, who had previously been promised everything.
I would not have believed this, except this is exactly what my mother did!
In retrospect, I see her as a real game-player. As she got older, she wielded these family objects like swords.
I learned that the best response was not to care.
– Older and Wiser
Dear Wiser: “Not caring” is tough to achieve, but it is a game-changer.
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