Toxic in-laws endanger allergic family member
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been in a 33-year (same-sex) relationship. We got married six years ago.
I have come to the realization that I no longer like my spouse.
He has turned into a toxic, negative old man.
I have suggested counseling, but he dismisses the suggestion.
I am no longer happy, but because of our history together (and advanced age) I don't really see leaving as a viable option.
Your thoughts?
-- Love Him, Don't Like Him
Dear Love Him: Marriage is hard. Getting old is no picnic.
Generally speaking, I think that you should not consign your own happiness over to someone else. If there are ways for you to preserve (or restore) your own happiness and sense of joy and also stay in this marriage, then you should do that.
Your negative, toxic old man of a husband is NOT going to choose counseling.
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