The 'kids' reject Dad's new marriage. What now?
Dear Amy: I am a 52-year-old divorcee who recently married a wonderful 62-year-old widower.
We are very happy except for one thing: Before we married, my husband's grown children (37and 35) attempted to stop us.
His son was very happy and supportive initially, but his daughter apparently influenced the son to change his mind. Neither attended our wedding.
I understand that they were trying to prevent their father from rushing into marriage. On the other hand, we didn't really think we needed his children's permission to marry. Our romance was a bit of a whirlwind, but we have known each other for six years.
Meeting his daughter upon our return from our honeymoon would have been my priority (she lives locally), but now I'm wondering if that will ever happen.
Now that we are back home her father has been to see her, but he can't get her to acknowledge me or our marriage.
I am very sad about all of this. Should I reach out to his children? If so, how should I begin?
-- Baffled Bride
Dear Baffled: Well, you're off to a bad start, and the person who could fix this -- possibly quite quickly -- is your husband.
He did not need his daughter's permission to GET married, and now he should stop trying to get her permission to BE married.