Views about adoption raise unkind assumptions
Help!
-- JC
Dear JC: There is no timetable for getting over a heartbreak, and even when you know the breakup was the right thing for you, it is still a huge loss. Mainly, it is the loss of possibility.
Please don't compare your recovery to your ex's, because part of what you are recovering from is the way she treated you.
Try your hardest not to let your previous relationship bleed over into your current relationship. You and your new girlfriend will build up shared experiences and memories. Take things slowly, and let these positive experiences push out your unresolved feelings about your ex.
Dear Amy: I think you dropped the ball on "No-win," the couple in their 80s where the wife wanted to move to live near her son.
It's obvious they can afford two homes so why couldn't they split the year and live together at both places? Seems like a much better idea to me, and everyone wins.
-- Win-Win
Dear Win-Win: I got the sense that the husband didn't want to relocate to that extent, but yes, this is a great solution.
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