Dear Amy: I married a wonderful woman about two years ago. Six months later her widower son moved into our house, with his five children. The children ranged in age from a newborn baby to eight years old.
This "man" couldn't raise one child, much less five.
The children have had no formal (or any) education, nor medical or dental care. The ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a man in my late-20s, living in New York City with a friend, who is the same age. We've been roommates for a couple of years. We knew each other previously from college.
My roommate, "Charles," was seeing a woman until about three weeks ago, when she broke things off. Despite this being a fairly brief relationship, Charles took it...Read more
Dear Amy: A few months ago, I was upset with my husband, and he sent me flowers.
I told him it was a nice gesture, but I would rather not get flowers because I think it is a waste of money, and flowers eventually have to be thrown out.
It was my birthday recently, and he asked me what I wanted. I couldn't think of anything. (We've been married...Read more
Dear Amy: When I was 18, a friend of my father's, who I knew through a community group, asked to meet me for coffee. After coffee, he put his young daughter in their car and then sat with me in my car for a few minutes, holding my hand and telling me how he had been thinking of me over the last couple years, while he was going through his ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a successful man in my late 30s. I am very interested in social justice, and particularly concerned about violence against women.
The issue is this: I wasn't always the man I am today. I had a rather alcohol and drug-fueled youth, and did some things I am not proud of.
One particular boozy night I made some unwanted advances and...Read more
Dear Amy: I have worked closely with a colleague since the beginning of our careers. We are both in our 30s and extremely close -- she was there for me during my divorce, I attended her wedding, our kids have met and we do "non-work" stuff together.
She returned to work after a year off for maternity leave and something was different. We ...Read more
Dear Amy: I've been married for 20 years. My in-laws all live locally and are all very high-functioning daily alcohol consumers.
We are all involved in a prominent successful family business that involves several liquor licenses.
Alcohol was not part of my childhood culture, and I very rarely drink.
We all meet every Sunday at Grandma's for a...Read more
Dear Amy: We have an ongoing problem occurring in our family. I have one daughter-in-law who is chronically late for everything. If we are supposed to be somewhere at two, that is when she starts getting ready.
Her mother is also always late, so I know it is a learned problem.
My son has discussed this with her, but nothing has changed. ...Read more
Dear Amy: Like many people, I have strong opinions about the state of politics in the U.S. But, I'm increasingly concerned about the venom with which people state their opinions.
It doesn't seem to be enough to explain their position and try to persuade others. Instead, they use hatred and sarcasm.
Amy, I have friends and relatives on Facebook...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm 51 years old, and have been in a relationship for over three years with a man who hates my grown daughter and her 10-year-old son (my grandson).
My daughter was 16 when she had my grandson. I was a single mom, and the two of them lived with me for a few years. She eventually got into low-income housing.
She doesn't drink, smoke ...Read more
Dear Amy: My daughter is getting married in a year. The wedding is a long way off, but the nightmares are already beginning.
My daughter isn't the problem, but my mother is! When I got married my mother informed me it was NOT my wedding, but a celebration she was putting together and therefore she would call all the shots, which she did.
I ...Read more
Dear Amy: I need help. I don't love my firstborn son. I feel nothing with him. When I hold my second son, my newborn, my heart swells with love. It used to be like that with my first, too, but it's not like that anymore, and I'm not sure why.
My older son is two-and-a-half, and a real handful. That might be why he's into everything constantly. ...Read more
Dear Amy: My women friends and I are all mothers of teenagers. Due to current events, we've discussed sexual assault and the roles and responsibilities of the various parties. One of my closest friends expressed the opinion that many girls these days "dress like tramps," so it's not surprising that boys respond sexually. She even said she had ...Read more
Dear Amy: My 29-year-old stepdaughter, "Jamie," is getting married next year to a man she has lived with for three years.
They are both professionals with good-paying jobs. They own a home.
Some time ago, Jamie emailed my husband (her dad) asking how much he could contribute to the wedding.
She did not tell us where she wanted to get married,...Read more
Dear Amy: How should I respond to parents of troubled offspring? These not-so-young adults seem set on destroying themselves or going to jail. Some have committed unspeakable acts and endangered others.
These parents and their sons and daughters have been my friends for many years. I saw nothing but love in their homes. I am not a parent, so I ...Read more
Dear Amy: My parents have taken in my 95-year-old grandfather. Money is not a problem, so he could have gone into a nursing home or into assisted living. My grandfather has six other kids, and no one else wanted him to live with them.
I feel as if I have lost my parents until my grandfather passes. I'll invite them to come to their grandchild's...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 50-year -old woman. My husband and I have two sons.
I recently found out that my husband has been exchanging texts with another married woman who he met in a writing workshop.
My husband told me that the woman confided in him about her marriage problems and their terrible sex life. She also told my husband that she was having ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have two granddaughters; 11 and 14. We have a vacation home, and they come to stay for a week or two every summer.
While they were visiting this year, I noticed both girls trying on old clothes and jewelry from a closet. One granddaughter asked me if she could keep a gemstone pendant that she had found. It had belonged to my mother,...Read more
Dear Amy: OK. Long story short: I'm 47, gay and single. I've spent the last eight years living away from my family of origin.
I recently moved back to my home state, although I live about two hours away from my family. My problem is my widowed mother, who's 77. We haven't had the best relationship lately because she refuses to recognize ...Read more
Dear Amy: A few months into freshman year of college (not too long ago), an acquaintance of mine accused a popular athlete on campus of date rape and notified the college and police.
I went to a fairly small school, so rumors spread quickly and before long, most students heard some variation of the story.
I can't remember the details of what ...Read more