Dear Amy: I am part of a group of friends who all share a house together.
We've all been close friends for five years now.
One of our friends started a new relationship about five weeks ago. Since then, they have not spent a single day or night apart from each other.
Sometimes they're at our house; sometimes they're at his partner's house.
Dear Amy: My mother committed suicide in 1970. I found her body. I was seven months pregnant at the time, and it was extremely traumatic.
When my daughter was old enough to ask about her grandmother, the only thing I told her was that she died before my daughter was born.
Through the years she would ask me how her grandmother had died, but I ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband is a good person. We have a "great" relationship and we love each other, but we both have had a past that we are not proud of (cheating on exes about 10 years ago).
The problem is that it seems that I moved on from the past and am focused on the present -- on being a good wife and mother to my kids (their dad passed away ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I had a spirited discussion concerning whether adult children should call their parents by their first names, or by their titles (such as "Mom" or "Dad").
I was raised to address my elders by their respective titles and so was my wife, but she now feels it's outdated and no longer applicable.
What's your take?
-- Puzzled...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 55-year-old man. My parents divorced before I can remember, and I lived with my narcissistic, alcoholic mother. When I was a child and a teen, I was sexually abused by her "companion." I didn't tell anyone because I knew my mother wouldn't believe me, and I know that she would have chosen him over me. There was never a question ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I have two grown children. One is married with children. The other, our 35-year-old daughter, lives with us and has been unemployed for the last month.
She is kind and generous. She will help around the house or yard if asked. She pays for her own car, insurance, gas, clothes, phone and health and beauty aids. She does not...Read more
Dear Amy: Numerous sports stars and celebrities have recently disclosed that they have anxiety, depression and/or bipolar disorder. These people have amazing strength and courage.
However, countless others live in secrecy, refusing to disclose their illness to even close friends or family members. Spouses of people with mental illness must ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I are struggling on how to handle our relationship with our new daughter-in-law. No matter what, it seems impossible to draw her into the fold of our family and to shower her with love and affection.
She is moody and often cold and indifferent. She and my son live a couple of hours away in a major city, and both of them ...Read more
Dear Amy: I cheated with someone who was also cheating on his partner. I left my partner; he stayed with his. I went to great lengths to change my life for him. He did not.
I got worn out by the wait (four years) and couldn't take the emotional pain. Six months ago, I ended the relationship.
I am in therapy, which has helped me. I'm trying to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I had a baby daughter four months ago. My in-laws called three days before Christmas to tell us that they all had colds, but insisted that we come over anyway because the entire family would be there.
My pediatrician said that the baby is fine to go out in public at her age, and we have been in many public places and attended large ...Read more
Dear Amy: I've been married for 26 years. My husband and I are in counseling for marital problems. I struggle with self-esteem and shame.
My husband and I clicked immediately when we met. I thought I had found a man who loved me and didn't judge me. We married a year later.
Three months after our wedding, everything changed. One night I tried ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband is 56 and I am 31. During the five years we've been together, he has lost countless friends, family and acquaintances.
He's a union rep, so he knows many people, including retirees, and goes to several funerals a month. The hardest ones are obviously for his close friends or their children whom he watched grow up. Some have...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a problem with my brother's wife. She has always been rude to me, my siblings and our parents.
I have never tolerated her rudeness, so she usually just avoids me. The other day, she said something very nasty to me. I very calmly and firmly told her that I would not allow her to speak to me like that. She got angry, but seemed ...Read more
Dear Amy: Over the holidays my wife and two young children were with my wife's family (her mom, dad, sister, brother-in-law and their two children).
My sister-in-law insisted that we order take-out instead of having a home-cooked meal. We ordered in, and she paid for the meal.
Days later my father-in-law suggested that he and I should give her...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 57-year-old man dating a 49-year-old woman. We've been together for over a year.
She is beautiful, smart, sexy, and tons of fun. However, she never puts her phone down.
No matter what we are doing or where we are, she is texting and answering texts from her teenage children. This goes on, no matter how serious or ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a gay male who's been in a relationship with the same man for the last 25 years.
Both of our families have been supportive of our relationship over the years.
During the Christmas holidays, we usually receive Christmas cards from my partner's side of the family with annual letters inside of them.
These letters usually tell ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a co-worker who has terrible grammar.
Sure, we all make grammar mistakes from time to time, but his is really bad all the time and people are starting to laugh at him or make glances to other team members about it when he makes presentations.
I believe English is his first and only spoken language (we all have our spoken ...Read more
Dear Amy: My sister and I both have young children (I have three kids, age 7 and younger, she has two under age four).
My sister relies heavily on my Mom for child care throughout various times of the year. As such, my parents spend 90 percent more time with her kids than with ours.
My wife and I would like our kids to get more quality time ...Read more
Dear Amy: Over the last couple of months, a close single-mom friend of mine has very nonchalantly mentioned that she'll give her toddler a melatonin supplement before bedtime a few times a month so the toddler won't wake up in the night while my friend is out partying.
In my opinion, using any sort of substance, natural or otherwise, to get ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a 3-year-old and a 5-year-old. My son (age 3) really acts out when I take him shopping. I find it very stressful and hard to control him. He screams, kicks and bites me when I try to keep him in the cart. If I let him down, he runs and hides from me.
Do you recommend any tactics on how to handle this? My husband works a lot so ...Read more