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In-law wants to protect her investment with engaged couple

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm engaged to be married soon.

My fiancee bought a house last year, with a sizable down payment provided by her mother.

A few weeks ago, my future mother-in-law expressed the sentiment that we should wait to put my name on the deed of the house in order "to see how the marriage works out."

I understand that she wants to protect her...Read more

Neglected dogs leave neighbors barking mad

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I have lived in a quiet neighborhood for 22 years.

Four months ago, new neighbors moved in.

We endured three months of noisy renovations, construction, tree removals, etc. before they moved in.

Over the last month their two dogs have been left outside barking at 6 a.m., and then barking for 90 minutes at <...Read more

Death in the family redefines the family

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Earlier this year, my partner of more than 20 years died of brain cancer. Every day is still very hard.

For almost all of those 20 years, we typically spent the holidays with his mother and father and his siblings and their children. (Both of my parents are deceased, and my only brother lives in Europe.)

We typically went to one of ...Read more

What to do when an upset teen is at the door

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My daughter, an almost-single working mother of two teens, recently relayed a scenario, which she said she didn't know how to handle. She said she didn't have any training or previous experience with this sort of thing.

My daughter was going to bed when the doorbell rang. A friend of her 15-year-old son's was at the door. He was ...Read more

Mother's cancer gets in the way of a wedding

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Last April my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.

This past Labor Day, I got engaged.

Now my fiancee and I are trying to make our wedding plans.

I would like to get married sooner rather than later, as my mother's prognosis is not great.

My fiancee would like more time to plan our wedding -- and ...Read more

Architect engages in poorly designed deception

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old man. I used to live in New York City, where I worked as an architect.

I met a 22-year-old girl on Tinder two weeks ago in New York.

The first date went well, and we agreed to meet again after I returned from my two-week vacation in Sydney, Australia.

The thing I could not tell her was that I would not be taking a ...Read more

Parent wants in-laws to finance kids' higher education

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I are parents to three college-age children. All three are good students that attend flagship state universities. Of course, as parents, we think they are great and well-rounded young adults. They have never given us a lick of trouble and have no trouble speaking and holding conversations with other adults, teachers, ...Read more

Toxic drunk pauses in the beer aisle

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My fiance is a toxic drunk. The last time he drank, he became verbally, emotionally and very nearly physically abusive toward me.

It was the second time this had happened in our eight-year relationship, so I left him.

I returned only when he promised to quit drinking and get therapy. He has already reneged on the therapy, and today ...Read more

Couple can't agree about parenting their nephew

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I are raising my husband's nephew, who is 15. He has lied to us many, many times and often completely disregards the rules that have been established in our house.

This past weekend my husband and I were gone for the evening and he was supposed to stay at home, but when my husband and I came home at midnight, he was not...Read more

Sibling is frustrated by one-way calling

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm in a one-sided relationship. I'm referring to me doing all the telephone calling (I live out of town) in order to connect with my sister and my cousin, who live in our hometown. I never receive a phone call in return.

It seems to me that in a good relationship I should do half the calling -- just to say hello and see how they are ...Read more

Daughter in stalemate withholds grandchild visits

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My parents and I have been in a fight for a while, mostly due to money.

I moved in with my folks (with my husband and our two children). They were receiving a generous amount of money from us, covering rent and bills. We were told we didn't need to pay utility bills, but they asked for extra money, so we did not hesitate.

When I told...Read more

Teen girl worries about family's future

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a teenage girl stuck in a dysfunctional household.

My parents can't stand the sight of each other. They complain about the other one to me and my younger brother.

All of this has taken a mental and emotional toll on us.

I have developed pretty strong anger issues and have broken many doors and light switches, becoming enraged ...Read more

Spouse worries about awkward in-law love

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I are middle-aged. We got married five years ago.

My husband's parents live out of state. I only met them one time before we got married, and now see them about twice a year for a day or two.

Every visit or phone call is ended with them saying, "Love you." It makes no difference if I am alone or with my husband.

I ...Read more

Halloween in the office shouldn't offend others

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am not from India, but I had a traditional Indian shirt, called a kurta, made when I was invited to an Indian wedding. The shirt is made of Indian silk with gold embellishments.

Would it be appropriate to wear this shirt to a Halloween gathering at my office?

I know that there are some people from India working in ...Read more

Parents get cranky about naptime schedule

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My wife and I have a 14-month-old daughter. We often clash on our parenting styles.

Our daughter is on a very strict schedule. This has worked out well for us -- she naps well and sleeps through the night.

I'm all for the schedule, but sometimes life should come first. This weekend my wife and I are going to a wedding. My parents ...Read more

Family member enjoys degrading others

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My family has become somewhat torn over the past few years over what to do about this issue.

Last year my adult brother openly declared his affiliation with an extremist political group and has taken to attacking members of my immediate and extended family over social media with degrading, misogynistic, racist and rude comments.

Most...Read more

Reader wonders if parental jealousy is normal

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Do you think it is normal for a parent to be jealous of their partner's love for their (shared) child?

When my dad was alive, my mother would constantly get jealous of my relationship with him. I grew up a tomboy, and my father and I were very close. My mother would make comments that disgusted me, insinuating that our relationship ...Read more

Adult is calling and texting young teen

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: Some time ago, I found out that my 20-year-old granddaughter "Sally's" ex-boyfriend, "Jason," is calling and texting Sally's 13-year-old sister late at night.

When I expressed my concern to these girls' mother (my daughter) that a 20-something male was calling and texting a 12-year-old (she has since turned 13), her mother brushed it ...Read more

Sudden plan to move ties partner in knots

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: A few days ago, I found out that my girlfriend of 10 months has applied for a work visa to Canada, and plans to move there next year from Dublin (where we live), with or without me.

We both have chosen journalism as a career, and unfortunately there isn't a lot of work here in Ireland. This is something she has wanted to do for a very...Read more

Marriage flounders over financials

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am married to a beautiful woman. We have two wonderful daughters. For the past two years, a distance has grown between us.

This has been a rough year for me. I left a good job for another that didn't pan out. I then landed a great job with a former employer. My wife says that she supports me, but her tone of voice and facial ...Read more


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