Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together almost 19 years and have two children together. We've had our ups and downs.
Approximately five years ago, we had an argument and he kicked me out of the home, which led me to stay with my mother out of town.
During this time, I begged to come home and was denied. After about a month, I discovered ...Read more
Dear Amy: Two years ago, I made the decision to move from a city to a rural area because I knew I would never be able to afford to buy a house in that city.
I can telecommute for work, giving me the ability to make a good salary and live almost anywhere I want.
Since moving, I have made many local friends, many of which can only dream of ...Read more
Dear Amy: My parents are the best. Like, the very best. Picture the mom who sends impromptu "thinking of you" cards and care packages, and the dad who checks your oil. They have always supported me emotionally, mentally, and even financially when I was in college. I live every day full of gratitude for their love and the life they were able to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been dating a wonderful man for nine months. He is smart, funny, and deeply charming, as well as being ridiculously attractive. On a normal day, I see a great future for the two of us.
However, every once in a while he will do something that I just can't get past. We'll be having a normal conversation, when suddenly, he'll ...Read more
Dear Amy: I like to reach out to former co-workers, former bosses, and former acquaintances from time to time to keep in touch so as not to lose a possible connection.
Sometimes the conversation is lovely and it's nice to hear about a person's life once or twice a year. I am genuinely happy when I get to hear about other people's successes. ...Read more
Dear Amy: My father just turned 70 years old. He and my mom divorced when he turned 50, because he was having an affair with a younger woman, "Cherie." My siblings and I eventually accepted Cherie and grew quite fond of her.
About 18 months ago, my dad started to complain about how Cherie was too dependent on him. He quite suddenly decided to ...Read more
Dear Amy: Last summer, my 10-year-old son learned a racial epithet (the "n word") from listening to his favorite music and watching his favorite basketball videos.
When we discovered that he had been listening to music with that word, we asked him to find clean versions. Although he is 10, he has the social maturity of a younger child.
Our son...Read more
Dear Amy: I am entering my 14th year as a military spouse. Four years ago, I created a "home base" in my hometown area because I could no longer handle military life. This happened after several intense episodes of depression and anxiety, exacerbated by the death of one of my best military spouse friends. She was a fine woman with a secret ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a 30-year-old niece. She has an 8-year-old son. I love them both.
She has done a wonderful job raising her son alone, (her fiancé died when she was pregnant).
I decided I would like to start a savings account for my niece's son so that he can have a start in life after he graduates and (if and when) he continues on to college...Read more
Dear Amy: Recently, I went to join my two closest friends and their husbands at "Betsy's" lake house. I arrived early. My friends had gone into town.
Betsy's husband was sitting outside, and I walked down and said hello, but he didn't knowledge me. So I asked him, "Do you want to be alone? Should I come back later?" He said yes, and I left in ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been married for over 20 years. My wife and I have had our share of issues. I have made my share of mistakes. Over the past 18 months we have been going to marriage counseling and have worked to address some of those issues.
Over the last 12 months, she has started getting verbally abusive when she has had too much to drink. At...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm in love with my best friend's fiancée, and I'm set to be a groomsman at their wedding.
I met the bride in college. We worked together. After months of office flirting, we spent a night together. I told her how I felt, and she reciprocated. However, the next day I got a "can we act like that didn't happen and just be friends" text...Read more
Dear Amy: I hosted a holiday dinner at my home. My guests included family and close friends.
I set the table with my good china and very expensive crystal. During the course of the dinner, when a piece of crystal knocked over on the table but didn't break, I jokingly said, "Be careful with the crystal. You break, you pay!" but immediately said ...Read more
Dear Amy: I was with my ex-wife for 20 years. We divorced four years ago. I'm 42.
We were on drugs the whole time we were together, so naturally there were some bad times, but I still love her.
I do not do drugs anymore, but have developed a drinking problem.
I know she is gone and not coming back. We have not spoken in three years.
I still ...Read more
Dear Amy: I live with my daughter, "Clara," my husband, "Don," and his son, "Steven," during the week (Steven is with his mother on the weekends).
My 15-year-old daughter is a competitive gymnast and is on the swim team. Steven is almost a year older, but is not athletic. He is more into computer games.
A month ago, I heard a commotion in the ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been feeling irritable toward my husband lately. Small things bug me, even when I know they are not such a big deal.
I noticed these feelings after the birth of our fourth child, in June.
Before she was born, we found out that my husband's father was in the hospital. We couldn't get much information about his condition, so my ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a teenage nephew who has always acted out; I believe it's because he lives with his father (my brother), who makes dating and partying a priority over being a parent.
My nephew's mother lives out of state. He rarely sees her.
When I try to buy my nephew clothing or other items that his father won't get for him, he insults me ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. We have two children together.
I can fully admit that the last few years have not been our best. We've argued frequently.
Six months ago, he moved out for what was supposed to be a short-term break. During that time, he has been treated for depression and anxiety.
Over and over, he ...Read more
Dear Amy: My daughter, "Catherine," began a relationship with her girlfriend, "Sharon," shortly after coming out.
We were concerned that Sharon was domineering, but Catherine professed to be happy. Five years later, Catherine has opened up to us about how controlling and manipulative Sharon is. She describes their relationship as emotionally ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am moving into my freshman dorm for college soon.
I am moving in with two roommates: "K" (who I selected), and "L," who was assigned to our triple.
K is very extroverted, and L seems visibly shy and quiet.
I was trying to loop L in to some of the discussions of the housing, but he kept being overrun by K.
K stated that he hates ...Read more