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Moocher neighbors need solid boundaries

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My much younger sister and her husband recently decided to purchase the home next door to my husband and me.

My husband was not happy about this. He thinks they are "cheap," and "moochers." (They do have that reputation in the family.)

He feels they should've asked us before making the offer on the house next to us.

My husband told ...Read more

Dog bite seems to hurt the whole family

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am the mother of three adult children and grandmother to six.

We usually celebrate holidays, birthdays, etc. together.

On Christmas Eve, my son's 4-year-old was bitten by my daughter's dog, while my son-in-law had the dog on a leash. The child was upset, but his parents handled the situation calmly. He now has a scar...Read more

Family wedding could revive family feud

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 24-year-old nephew, "Harley," is marrying his longtime girlfriend in September. I don't have children, but if I could pick one for me, it would be him.

I have been estranged from both of his parents for many years. His mother is my sister, and she's divorced from his father. I haven't talked to my sister in over five years. I did ...Read more

Woman lets men down gently, but would like a response

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old woman. Since leaving my previous relationship, I've been getting back out there and going on dates.

When I realize that I do not wish to pursue a relationship with someone after going on (one to five) dates with them, I usually send a text that says something along the lines of, "Hi, Mike. I enjoyed meeting you, but...Read more

It's time for these roommates to air their dirty laundry

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a young guy. I went to college in the same town I grew up in, so I lived at home through college. After graduating, I got a job away in the city where my best friend from high school lives. He suggested that we get an apartment together, and now we're roommates.

Everything has been fine, except for this: On a few occasions, I have...Read more

Mom wonders how to react to daughter's estrangement

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have two children in their 40s. I divorced their dad several years ago. My daughter does not want me in her life. I think she holds me entirely responsible for the divorce, but I don't really know. I have never had the opportunity to tell my side of the story, and part of me feels that dirty laundry just needs to be "kept in a corner...Read more

Grandparents worry about grandchild's welfare

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My 28-year-old college educated ADULT child has a 3-year-old child who has no relationship at all with his other biological parent.

My adult child is currently in a live-in relationship with another person. My spouse and I see our grandchild often, both willingly and because we're needed to help with child care during some work hours....Read more

Parent's contract might not be enforceable

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My son is graduating from high school.

I made him sign a note stating that if I helped him edit his college essays, he would practice his writing skills over the summer. (Many books recommend that parents, teachers and guidance counselors should help students edit their college essays, and that obtaining feedback is valuable.)

My ...Read more

Wounded woman worries about inability to love

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 68-year-old woman, divorced and living alone. I'm an introvert, so I'm not lonely. I've been divorced since 2003 because of emotional and verbal abuse. We were married for 30 years because I was afraid of leaving him and afraid of what it would do to my children. I was in counseling before, during and afterward, and have never ...Read more

Family members lurk on social media

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have a large extended family. I was close to my cousins and aunts growing up, but I now feel like the black sheep of the family. I am gay and have political and religious beliefs that are different from the rest of my conservative family.

While no one has ever been overtly mean or critical to my face, I am "friends" with many of my ...Read more

Mother objects to daughter's gender transitioning partner

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have three great kids. My daughter has always been headstrong and willful. My abusive ex-husband cut off all ties with her from the time she was 15. She is basically a good person. However, she and I do not agree on a lot of subjects, causing our relationship to be strained. She is now 25.

Two years ago, she met and fell in love ...Read more

Girlfriend wonders how to exit abusive relationship

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My boyfriend and I have been together for about four years, and I'm ready to move on.

He doesn't work and has been dealing with some long-term health issues.

If I asked him to move out, he wouldn't be able to support himself. He can file for disability, but he doesn't. He doesn't do anything to take care of himself.

I've tried to ...Read more

Grandparents explode over pot paraphernalia

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am the father of three kids, all boys ranging in age from 11 to 17.

The two oldest boys share a room in our unattached guesthouse, my youngest son's room is in the main house.

Recently, my in-laws came to stay with us for a week. We moved them to the guesthouse. While the boys were not thrilled, they reluctantly cleaned up and ...Read more

Stepmother claims biological relationship to stepchildren

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have two adult sons. Their father (my ex) remarried (to "Barbara") several years ago.

Our family has now grown to include wonderful daughters-in-laws and grandchildren.

My boys' dad and I get along well. We celebrate holidays, events and family milestones together.

What is baffling is that, increasingly, I run into people who have...Read more

Husband rejects son and now wants him to leave

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I adopted my nephew when he was a baby. My husband was reluctant, and has never allowed me to forget how unhappy he has been about it.

Our nephew/son recently turned 18.

We have many issues with him, due to mental illness, low IQ and teenage angst. He refused to attend school for this last year and a half. I enrolled ...Read more

Women wonder whether to call out male friends for sexism

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am lucky enough to have found a group of people who share the same deep love and support for an international sports team. We meet up to watch the games, but we also enjoy each other's company and see each other outside of match day.

We've established a group text that covers a range of topics. The makeup of the group is ...Read more

Elderly mother's friend pressures her to donate money

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I manage my mother's finances. She's 88 years old. After my father died a decade ago, she began to donate to dozens of charities, beyond what she could afford. Anyone that solicited her typically got a donation. In some cases, there were recurring donations coming from her checking account that she didn't even remember ...Read more

Marriage at midlife is one long slog

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a 42-year-old man who has been married to my wife for 14 years.

We started out fairly well, but over the years, more and more arguments emerged.

Now we have three young kids, and have devolved into the Odd Couple. She is a downright slob (really bad, even by her own admission) and I'm more of a normal clean-type.

I can't keep ...Read more

Neighbors need curtains, or others might go blind

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My husband and I live next to a married couple who are about our age (late 30s). Our condos are close (less than 12 feet apart), and some of our windows face each other.

They removed all of the curtains and blinds about a year ago. We absolutely try to avoid looking into their house, and we've angled our blinds to obstruct our view ...Read more

Big Sister worries about her 'little's' media use

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a 30-year-old woman with no children.

I am mentoring a 12-year-old girl through the Big Sisters program. "Sandie" is a great, strong-willed kid, but has been through the wringer, with a history of sexual abuse, her dad in prison for most of her life, serious poverty and her mom giving up custody (just to name a few).

This doesn'...Read more


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