Dear Amy: About a month ago, at the start of the pandemic restrictions in our area, I was talking with my brother by phone and he voiced concern about my husband's work, which he believed might expose our mother to the COVID virus.
She lives close by, and we visit one another quite often. My husband, although an essential worker, has little to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a separated, 63-year-old retiree. My 29-year-old daughter lives at home. She has a half-sister and a father she doesn't see very often (her preference).
I am having a very difficult time navigating retirement with my adult child living at home. She pays no rent and offers no help, other than buying her own food and paying for her...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm 26 years old, and live in a large city.
I have a wide circle of close friends, but I've always struggled with dating. My longest relationship lasted for about two years, and that ended nearly five years ago.
My friends and family often tell me, "You can't love someone if you don't love yourself."
I know the reason people say ...Read more
Dear Amy: In February, my husband and I had COVID-19, and it was a tough struggle.
Our daughter lives two hours away with our only grandchildren, (elementary age), and her husband, "Eric."
Eric is very "me" oriented; he'll wear you down in a discussion so he can win. He yells and screams a lot, but he's never been physically violent.
We're in...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a wonderful daughter-in-law.
She is a great match for my son and a great mom to their daughter.
We all have faults, and I accept that. I know I may sound like a "typical" mother-in- law complaining about my son's wife, but I'll risk it in order to get your advice.
She's a talker. She doesn't know how to have a conversation. ...Read more
Dear Amy: I'm a 22-year-old woman. I scored a dream job that I feel very fortunate to have.
The CEO is a really nice and smart person. I essentially got hired as someone who deals with customer issues. However, he realized I had a talent for making things look modern and hip, so I've been designing flyers, booklets, brochures, and working on ...Read more
Dear Amy: I came out as gay to my parents when I was 28. I'm living on my own, after serving in the military.
My parents (who have always been deeply conservative) did not accept my sexuality well, calling me "disgusting" and "sinful." In fact, they froze me out for two years while I was stationed overseas, unwilling to talk or discuss or to ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am 72. I've been married for 50 years to the same woman.
Three years ago, I moved out of our beautiful home of 35 years because she became verbally abusive. She has been a harsh, judgmental person, driven by worry, for most of our lives. I concluded that I was enabling her behavior by trying too hard to make her happy.
We raised ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am 63 and my husband (of six years) is 67. He drinks every night. Most nights he drinks to the point of stumbling, and not recalling what he says or does.
He says he doesn't remember his actions because he was so tired, not because he was so drunk.
In recent years he gets so negative and grumpy in the evening, it really is quite ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been together for about 10 years. Ever since having our son four years ago, the thought of physical contact with him makes me cringe. He's a good-looking man, a great dad, and a hard worker, but something about him makes me not want to be intimate with him.
We both have very strong personalities, so we butt heads...Read more
Dear Amy: My mother-in-law has refused vaccines for years.
My daughter, who is now five, was a micro preemie.
Once she was born, the NICU required a Tdap vaccine and a flu shot for anyone to visit. My MIL was worried her arm would hurt and said she didn't need the shots, claiming she never gets sick. We said it was the hospital's rules, and if...Read more
Dear Amy: My parents have been fighting a lot. It scares me because I love them so much and I don't know what I would do without either one of them.
I have tried to talk to both of them privately, but they act like everything is fine, when I know it isn't. I know that times are tough for all of us and maybe we could all just use some time by ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have a boy problem! Ugh, I don't think I've said that since my late 20s.
I am 40 now and until I met "him" just three months ago, I had pretty much decided I would be single forever. I was fine with that. Then HE came along. It was instant attraction for both of us. He approached me and we were immediately smitten.
We exchanged ...Read more
Dear Amy: In this time of social isolation, a neighbor just knocked on my 93-year-old aunt's door and then entered her house. Who does that?
I was talking to her on the phone at the time, from 2,000 miles away, and my aunt put the phone down to go answer the door. I was begging her not to let anyone in. She has been isolated for six weeks at ...Read more
Dear Amy: Because COVID-19 has caused universities to close, my boyfriend's sister, "C," has moved into the house with us until further notice (perhaps until the university reopens in the fall).
C is a very picky eater and eats mostly bread, cheese, and fruit. My boyfriend and I are mostly vegetarian and vegan, but we've been able to find at ...Read more
Dear Amy: My beautiful high school senior is having a hard time.
When she was in elementary school, she announced that she would be the high school valedictorian. She has kept her vow. She volunteers for many organizations, tutors middle-school students, is an athlete, and is on the mock trial and academic team.
Her intense discipline, vision,...Read more
Dear Amy: I am recently divorced. My ex-husband and I share custody of our 8-year-old daughter.
As we were working out the conditions of our divorce, my ex was cultivating a "friendship" with "Cindy," the wife of our workout trainer. At the time, he and I were still intimate sometimes, and the divorce was looking like it would be amicable.
Dear Amy: I married my wife a few months ago. She and I have been friends for 33 years.
She has three sons, ages 22, 17, and 15.
For the most part, they are all good kids, however, they have never been given any responsibilities. Ever. Our house constantly looks like a war zone - there are clothes everywhere, dishes in the sink, and they ...Read more
Dear Amy: How should I have handled my neighbor having an Easter party, despite a shelter-in-place order in our state?
From my backyard, my husband and I could clearly tell that they had multiple people over.
I emailed the neighbor and asked him to please consider refraining from having guests over, as it's in violation of the order and ...Read more
Dear Amy: My mother-in-law recently asked if she could take our kids for the day. My husband and I were nervous about this, due to the COVID pandemic. but we relented -- with the clear understanding that our kids would not have ANY contact with their cousins (their father is a medic and IS in contact with the virus regularly).
My mother-in-law ...Read more