Dear Amy: I’m a clueless aunt looking for some advice.
My little nephew (age 4 1/2) is very smart, but seems dysregulated quite often.
He often runs around in small circles for about 10 minutes screaming, and can only focus for very short amounts of times, avoids eye contact, and often does not respond when spoken to directly.
We recently ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I were lovebirds in college. We had so much in common!
Unfortunately, an autoimmune disease hit him when he was in good shape and he lost most of the sensation in his body.
At the age of 37 he worked with an unusual paleo diet and conducted lots of internet research. He is now stronger and healthier than before the ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a self-supporting working woman.
Over the past decades, I've written personal essays for various publications. I don't make money at this; I wish I could!
I have a portfolio full of my work. Some pieces are humorous; some are serious.
I moved to a new town three years ago and made a new friend. She was going on a long car ride,...Read more
Dear Amy: The dog I had for over 10 years recently had to be euthanized.
I loved my dog, but being a pet owner often made me feel guilty. I often felt that I had to choose between being with our dog or being a good mother to my kids.
I realize that I was not ready to own a pet when I first got her. I made many blunders that I still regret to ...Read more
Dear Amy: My mom has invited me, my husband, and our two teenagers to her home for a special occasion dinner.
Our household, and my mom, have all been vaccinated and boosted for COVID.
My brother, who does not live with our mom and has no underlying conditions, is also vaccinated and boosted, but wants us to take a rapid test before arriving (...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 35-year-old professional woman, recently separated from my husband of nine years.
Our marriage has been rife with volatility due to his uncontrollable anger and my tumultuous relationship with alcohol during our relationship.
That being said, we have worked through most of our issues. He’s my best friend.
I’m in therapy ...Read more
Dear Amy: Recently, I was in a car accident involving a young man who tried to commit suicide by jumping into my car’s path.
My 2-year-old was in the car with me but (thankfully) doesn't seem to have noticed when I hit the man.
The man survived and I found out (through the police who arrived on the scene) that he had jumped into another car�...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I watch our grandsons (ages 3 and 5) twice a week.
We do this so our daughter can save on daycare expenses.
We bring the kids two snacks each time we are with them.
I choose a snack that is always healthy, like fruit, and my husband’s choice is not healthy — usually cookies.
My daughter complains to me about her ...Read more
Dear Amy: My psychiatrist suggested I write to you because none of the professionals we've consulted have an answer.
I had two children with a selfish, emotionally abusive man. I divorced him at my psychologist’s suggestion so my children would not see and experience his awful behavior.
I had custody of the children. His few opportunities ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a husband and father of an 18-month-old daughter.
I’m concerned about how my mother-in-law treats my wife and daughter.
She calls my wife multiple times a day to FaceTime with her granddaughter.
My wife answers as often as she can.
The problem I have is that my mother-in-law keeps saying things to our toddler like: "Don't ...Read more
Dear Amy: My older sister is 75 and unmarried.
She has three grown children in their 50s. I am eight years younger than she.
My sister has always avoided aging and seems in denial about mortality.
When I visited the family a few months ago for her 75th birthday party, my niece expressed concern to me that my sister has made no provisions for ...Read more
Dear Amy: Occasionally, I get together with a few of my neighbors.
Recently these people have commented negatively about people not getting the COVID vaccine. I refuse to get this shot.
Should I admit my decision not to vaccinate — and tell them about it?
Should I just not be their friend anymore?
What is your advice?
– I Refuse
Dear ...Read more
Dear Amy: My darling partner, “B,” has been a successful author, and has received a lot of satisfaction (and public acclaim) from it.
During a lull, B took a job to make ends meet, and has been doing the 9-to-5 slog ever since.
Every few months, B will get an idea for a new book. B has an agent and the connections to get it published.
B ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have been estranged from my mother for a little over a year. She was mentally and occasionally physically abusive to me while I was growing up. She herself was abused and neglected as a child.
I have tried to repair our relationship, but she crosses any boundaries I set and places me in difficult situations to prove my love and ...Read more
Dear Amy: They say you never forget your first love.
Is reaching out to them crossing a line?
Life for me was like a “rom-com” movie; I grew up as the girl next door in a gorgeous home. I was in love with the boy next door, “Brian.”
We had a pretend wedding when we were kids and always joked about being married to each other. His mom ...Read more
Dear Amy: I recently returned from a week-long visit to help my 90-year-old father, whereupon my husband of 46 years sat me down and said he had contacted a lawyer to file for a divorce, rented an apartment, and wanted me to sell our brand-new home.
He has ALWAYS been a good, solid, loving partner up to this point.
I was completely blindsided ...Read more
Dear Amy: My late-husband had a significant indiscretion about 10 years into our 35-year marriage. We stayed together and in fact, I was his caregiver for over 10 years, until he died of ALS.
I never told anyone about his extramarital affair because I thought it would complicate a messy matter unnecessarily.
After his affair, I think I gained ...Read more
Dear Amy: My daughter's boyfriend is a self-taught personal trainer (with no professional training).
He had previously been an airplane mechanic.
He acts like he's a medical doctor, constantly offering unsolicited advice.
I have asked my daughter (privately) to please make him stop. He follows all these weird and wacky diets that he sees on ...Read more
Dear Amy: A few years ago, my in-laws sent my (then) young-adult daughter a birthday card. Normally this would have included a monetary gift or gift card. However, when she opened it there was simply a note stating that there would be no gift, as they did not agree with what she was hoping to spend some of her birthday money on (a tattoo).
Dear Amy: I’ve been married to my husband for 29 years. He’s a good dad to our grown children and a good husband to me.
One thing gives me a lot of anxiety and causes heated arguments: I would like to visit my family and friends in Greece, where I am originally from.
He does not have as much time off from work as I do, and he dislikes ...Read more