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Erika Ettin: The third degree will not get you the second date

Erika Ettin, Tribune News Service on

Published in Dating Advice

While I don’t usually have calls with clients on the weekends (though, I still do work … dating never sleeps), when a client frantically texted me tonight to talk about a date (I’m writing this on a Sunday evening), I knew it was a call I had to take.

She started by saying that after she got home from a first date last night, she cried for an hour. What could have been that bad? Apparently, this was a set-up, so her friend knew both the guy and my client and thought they might be a good match. She walked into the bar to meet him (some cities are at partial indoor capacity these days), and she said he immediately started peppering her with questions. At first, they were innocuous enough:

Where are you from?

What do you do for work?

Then, she said, the questions started to get a little deeper:

Do you like your family?


Do you want to get married?

Do you want kids?

What are your deal-breakers?

Then they got downright intrusive:


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