Ask Amy: Sister hesitates to give niece advice
You know and love your sister. If you believe that she might use your contact with her daughter against both of you, you could emphasize that your conversation must remain private.
Dear Amy: Can you please settle a question?
When a loved one dies, who should pay for a luncheon after the service?
When my father passed away, I was in a poor financial situation (and still am).
After the service, all I wanted to do was go home and have time to myself.
I overheard several people grumbling about no after-service meal being readied for the mourners.
Why should the grieving party have to be sure that attendees eat afterward?
The family is going through enough losing someone dear to them without trying to come up with money to feed the crowd.
I feel that if attendees want a meal after the service, someone should gather others and organize something.
Your thoughts?
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