Ask Amy: In-home caregiver may care too much
Dear Amy: My husband and I have a special-needs teenage son. After more than a year on a wait list, we finally have an in-home therapist.
“Darla” comes three mornings a week to wake him up and help him to get dressed and ready for school.
This gives me rare and much-needed breaks.
My husband, who works from home, lets Darla into our home. I usually stay in my room and either sleep in or just enjoy the quiet until it is time for me to take my son to school.
Darla doesn't see all that I do when she isn't there.
I've picked up hints that she thinks I'm lazy and that my poor husband is put upon. (He doesn't feel that way).
She also seems to have a crush on my husband and finds excuses to chat with him. It drives him crazy, because he's trying to work.
I sent Darla a text asking her not to disturb him unless absolutely necessary.
She didn't respond to the text, but she did stop interrupting him as much.
Recently, after I let her in one morning, she told my son that he was slacking because his mother got up before he did.
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