Ask Amy: A husband grapples with his wife’s child-free choice
– Childless Husband
Dear Husband: First, to address your wife’s attitude toward children who are available for adoption: She’s wrong.
She obviously does not want to be a parent. She may be putting all sorts of phony roadblocks across the path to parenthood, but the answer is clear.
Your wife refuses to address any deeper issues, attempt to work this out, or even discuss this with you.
This is an extremely important and primary issue. The way this is resolved will affect the rest of your life in profound ways.
I strongly suggest that you find a counselor for yourself. Reviewing your history and disclosing your deep feelings about this with a neutral and compassionate person will be challenging, and very helpful.
Single men can foster and adopt children. This is legal throughout the country, and although it is still relatively rare (compared to single women adopting), if your marriage collapses on this issue, I urge you to look into adoption.
Dear Amy: I am a 32-year-old woman. I spent my 20s in a serious long-term relationship.
After we split, I took a couple of years to "sow my wild oats" and to find out who I am without him.
Now I'm looking for something more than "friends with benefits.” However, the last few men I've met and gone on dates with, as wholesome as they seemed on online dating sites (since that's been my main way of meeting men), these men were really just looking for hookups.
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