Ask Amy: New discovery leads to belated condolences
There are a number of charities serving our nation’s veterans. You might consider donating money or time in your friend’s memory to K9s For Warriors (K9sforwarriors.org), which provides service animals to servicemembers experiencing challenges related to their military service.
This is from their website: “Determined to end veteran suicide, K9s for Warriors provides highly trained service dogs to military veterans suffering from PTSD, traumatic brain injury, and/or military sexual trauma.”
These service dogs are adopted from shelters and bond tightly to their humans – with both canines and humans essentially rescuing each other.
Dear Amy: This is a little bit strange, perhaps. But every year my (Protestant) church hosts a “Blue Christmas” service. This service has always had a big impact on me, allowing me to basically unleash the sadness that seems to overtake me every Christmas.
Our pastor just announced that he will not conduct a “Blue Christmas” service this year. The reason? He has endured several personal losses of his own this year, and he quite honestly told the congregation that he doesn’t feel able to lead this service.
Ironic, right?
Anyway, I’m not sure how to react to this, and I’m wondering if you have any ideas?
– Am I Blue
Dear Blue: This situation is a reminder that clergy members are people, too. Sometimes, even they cannot rise above their own vulnerable humanity in order to serve others.
“Blue Christmas” services are also known as “Longest Night” services – and are usually held on or near the Winter Solstice. I have attended many of these services, designed for those who mourn, and I agree that they can be solemn, dignified, quiet and comforting.
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