Ask Amy: Long-ago date wants to give belated feedback
I suggest that you continue not to respond, consider blocking him, and hope that he is messaging you on FB because he has lost your number.
Dear Amy: I recently became debt-free, thanks to about eight years of hard work.
The person I am dating has been asking me how they can become debt-free.
I've explained multiple times how I did this, offering all the free resources I have used, but they keep bringing it up as though we've never had the conversation.
Last week, when I was asked again, I just offered no advice and just listened to a recitation of the emotional issues surrounding their debt.
I didn't say anything.
I wonder, how can I be of help without endlessly repeating myself?
– Not in Debt David
Dear David: Congratulations on achieving this enviable state. You’ve dedicated almost a decade to the long and slow climb out of debt, and you are absolutely justified in feeling very proud.
On many levels, being in debt is something like being trapped in an addiction. The addicted person can be very interested in or intrigued by recovery, but until they take concrete steps – of their own – recovery cannot begin.
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