Ask Amy: Minor home repair leads to major hot mess
We got together a couple of times and it wasn’t that enjoyable.
Teri took complete command – from ordering the food for the group to the topics we discussed.
It’s not that we dislike them, but we just have no interest in going out socially with them!
I have given every social clue there is, not answering calls, not returning texts, and breaking plans after she has worn me down to make them in the first place!
My question is, how do I tell someone I’m not interested in being friends without hurting their feelings?
– Want Out
Dear Want Out: “Teri” obviously doesn’t read cues the way most people do, and so you’ll have to be honest (but polite) with her. Due to her domineering personality, she might need to have the dynamic and your intentions spelled out.
You could say, “Obviously, our husbands are great friends, but we don’t seem to have great chemistry when we get together as couples. I’m going to back away and let the men continue their special friendship without me.”
She may respond to this statement by doubling down on the social pressure, and if so, you’ll have to say, “Thank you, but I just don’t want to get together.”
Dear Amy: The question by “Had Enough” really resonated with me.
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