Ask Amy: Minor home repair leads to major hot mess
Jill told me that she is going to see other people. I'm a bit disappointed and confused.
Should I contact Susan?
– Stuck
Dear Stuck: “Jill’s” interpretation of “girl code” seems to be that if a friend confesses to a case of unexpressed and unrequited love, then Jill must stay away, regardless of her own feelings, impulses, or instincts.
Jill might have misreported or exaggerated her friend “Susan’s” feelings for you, but I am going to venture a take on this, that if Jill really wanted to have a second date with you, she would find a way to justify it – especially if the chemistry between you is “amazing.”
You could certainly contact Susan to follow up on her flooring – or other – needs, but you should ask yourself if you want to invite involvement with someone who is so passive and hard to read.
At the risk of preventing you from connecting with your next great love – my instincts are that neither of these women is a match for you.
But in this regard, the most important thing to consider is what your own instincts tell you.
Dear Amy: My husband goes to dinner a couple of times a month with the guys, including “Theo,” a man he has known since elementary school.
Theo’s wife “Teri” hosted a birthday party for Theo, which is where my husband and I met her. She asked if we would like to go out socially.
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