Ask Amy: Long-ago infidelity leads to bizarre twist
What should I do? Should I try to fix this, or should I try to forget about it?
– Wondering Dad
Dear Dad: Your former wife’s infidelity led to the ending of your marriage.
You quite obviously shielded your young daughter from the truth during her childhood, perhaps to protect and preserve your privacy, as well as her relationship with her mother.
She is an adult now. At this point the truth behind your breakup has taken on some bizarre characteristics.
Do NOT say to your ex: “Either you tell the truth, or I will.”
You should not trust your ex with any version of this story. Her lie is profound and hurtful; don’t tempt her to embellish further or to put her own spin on these long-ago events.
You should tell your daughter the truth. Don’t re-litigate decades-old hurts. Just tell her the truth and answer any questions she might have.
Dear Amy: A few years ago, I was abruptly ghosted by a friend.
I asked what was wrong, but received no reply.
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