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Ask Amy: Long-ago infidelity leads to bizarre twist

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

You could also state that the way she chose to handle this hurt you then, and continues to bother you.

Doing this will help you to move on. And you should move on.

Dear Amy: A reader questioned why people investigate their DNA and then contact biological family members – implying that people who do this don’t know that the family they were raised in is their “real family.”

I am adopted and in my eyes my parents are the ones who raised me. Their family is my family.

I did DNA testing to find out more about myself.

I did contact people on both biological sides and was met with open arms.

This is not the case for many.

What this contact has given me is the ability to fill out medical forms correctly. I no longer need to write “adopted” in my family medical history.

I now know that I need to make sure to get testing because of the cancer history of my biological father.

 

I've gained siblings I never knew about.

My brother (also adopted but with different birth parents) now knows about his family medical history, including extensive cardiac history. Although he was met with a different outcome in terms of reunion with bio family members, he has no regrets.

Not all adopted children are looking for relationships with our biological family, but we are looking to fill in the blanks and understand ourselves better.

– Adopted in Louisiana

Dear Adopted: In terms of filling in these blanks, DNA testing has been a gift. It is every person’s right to know their biological history.

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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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