Ask Amy: Alarming traits mean wife should end marriage
Dear End: My intention is not to alarm you, but you’ve asked for help, and I want to make sure that you have clarity about my opinion concerning the future of your marriage.
It needs to end.
Regular readers know how seldom I say this to married people:
Get out.
Do not enter counseling with your husband. Don’t bargain, set limits, or agree to attempts at reconciliation.
Leave this relationship.
Please be careful while you do so.
The way you present things, in addition to never being honest with you, this man seems quite dangerous. Furthermore, his aggression seems to be escalating.
People who kill small and truly defenseless animals (not for food) sometimes accelerate their violence.
To research ways to stay safe as you leave your relationship, the National Domestic Violence Hotline has lots of helpful and important information and tips on their website: thehotline.org. You can also call their helpline to speak with a counselor: (800) 799-7233.
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