Ask Amy: Mom wants smooth waters for ex-con son
– Dutiful Daughter
Dear Dutiful: Yes, your brother does have a “right” to know about his parents.
But with rights, come responsibilities.
His behavior runs in something of a vicious cycle. Because he is not helpful, he must also reject you. Because he rejects you, he can justify not being helpful.
To satisfy your own concerns, you should email him: “You don’t seem to want to hear from me, but do you want to receive occasional health updates about our parents? I’ll respect your decision; just let me know.”
Dear Amy: A recent letter from “Marley” made my blood boil. Marley’s brother seemed to be constantly bullying her throughout life.
Why don’t you ever suggest that people just completely cut things off?
– Upset
Dear Upset: “Marley” was already doing a good job of evading and avoiding. A total break could be next.
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