Ask Amy: Grateful future mom worries about baby shower
You say you want to inform them, and you are obviously anticipating that one of them will object. If so, you should prepare yourself. She will have to recover from her own disappointment.
If she remains unattached and childless, then she will be spared at least one experience: the anxiety that you are experiencing now.
I’ll happily run replies from readers.
Dear Amy: I loved your response to "Tapped Out Teachers" where these retired parents keep giving money to their daughter and granddaughter, and are met with ridiculed responses.
I loved that you called out what the daughter "Clare" is: "… an entitled, incompetent, needy and angry adult."
More people like this need to be called out for their behavior. The parents, who give more than they receive, don't deserve this treatment, and neither does the rest of society.
– Cheering You On
Dear Cheering: One concern I had was that the older couple could actually harm their own financial future through this generosity.
Financial competency starts in childhood, and when parents teach their children to earn and to spend wisely, these children grow up to be confident, self-supporting (and oftentimes generous) adults. That education is a true gift.
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