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Ask Amy: Good guests have responsibilities, too

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

– Not a Grandma in Jersey

Dear Not a Grandma: You might offer a more definitive statement by responding, “Oh, I think that ship has sailed.”

Your real complaint seems to be the fact that you are overwhelmed by looking at pictures of other people’s grandchildren.

One way to try to stem the tide would be to say, “I’d love to see one more picture of your cutie pie, but then let’s catch up!”

Dear Amy: I’m responding to the letter from “Against Gift Lists.” This mom was completely against providing gift lists to her in-laws.

I was exactly the same as her!

This year was the first year since my childhood lists to Santa that I actually provided a gift list.

It was amazing, I wrote down how I wanted silver, so my grandpa went and gave silver coins for everyone in the family.


Apparently, he's been collecting silver for years. He showed me his collection and we talked for hours.

– Pro List

Dear Pro List: I’ve received a surprisingly large response to the idea of gift lists (who knew this would become such a hot topic?), with readers coming down fairly equally on both sides.

Your story is a real treasure. Thank you!


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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