Ask Amy: Father-in-law wants to hear his name
I respect her right to date whoever she wants and don't want to make things weird by pushing the issue, but whenever we're together, I feel a pull of attraction that is getting hard to ignore.
I'm afraid if this continues, one of us may cross an ethical line.
I'd be happy to make a move if she broke up with her boyfriend, but that isn't my call to make.
Is she waiting for me to say something? Or just using me as a distraction because she's lonely? Maybe I'm just reading too much into it?
How do I maintain this friendship without ruling out the possibility that there could be more?
I fear that if this goes on much longer, I'm going to have to say something or begin to distance myself from the situation.
What's the right move here?
– Smitten
Dear Smitten: The right move is to talk!: “Are you waiting for me to say something?” “Am I reading too much into this attraction?”
If your conversation progresses and she expresses interest in you, I hope you will make sure she knows that you are not willing to date her while she is involved with someone else. I suspect she will find this ethical stand of yours refreshing – and attractive.
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