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Ask Amy: Wife spends and sets up private accounts

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I met my wife online right before I had a serious accident, followed by cancer in 2013. She stayed with me during my treatment and recovery, but it was not “cookies and cream” during that time. We fought a lot. She left a few times, but always came back.

I was grateful to her for her financial and emotional support for a little over a year, and ended up marrying her when I was finished with my treatments.

She works in a public school and has a low salary.

Since I returned to work, I have financially supported our household (95 percent, she pays her own gas) and have used up my accident settlement to pay for our daily expenses.

Two years ago, her father died and she received a sizable inheritance, as well as his house.

Since then, she has kept her finances hidden from me. She filed taxes separately, without telling me. She has spent extravagantly on herself.

 

She has made no effort to help with our daily finances.

She won’t let us move into her Dad’s house because her “deadbeat” 30-year-old son is living there by himself, having dropped out of college to become a gambler. In the meantime, I am still paying $3,300 monthly in rent.

I granted her power of attorney in case of my incapacitation and made her my beneficiary, as she requested, several years ago. Now, I find out, she never did that in return!

She has hidden all of her inherited assets in a living trust. In the meantime, I cannot save enough for our retirement and I am constantly worried about our finances. I wake up at least once a week in the middle of the night worrying about finances.

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