Ask Amy: Molester in family should be outed to protect children
Dear Worried: You two should meet with an experienced accountant, who would review your finances calmy and openly and help him arrive at a reasonable plan to prioritize his financial issues and start to deal with them.
A third neutral party can often make headway where a partner cannot, and can also help to negotiate settlements with creditors.
Your guy needs to understand that taking care of his finances is a caring and kind thing to do – it is an extension of his willingness to be a fully-functioning partner.
No, do not marry into this mess. If people ask about marriage, you can simply say, “We haven’t decided.”
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